I guess this whole idea could go along with online dating. Speed dating is like getting a peak at a person and then deciding if it's worth going forward if you found a glimpse of something you liked. With online dating, you're getting a glimpse of the person based on how they present himself or herself off the bat, and it's up to you whether or not you want to "log in" again.
I think it's clear to all of you how I feel about online dating. I'm pretty skeptical, but at the same time, I'll give people the benefit of the doubt if I don't see any loopholes. I know, I know...it's probably not so fair for me to be this judgmental..but at the same time, I want all the facts before I make my honest assessment. But anyway, do you all think you can say that online dating is similar to speed dating? Which do you think is a more effective route to alternately meet someone??
Becca,
ReplyDeleteNice comparison, speed dating does seem to catch similarities to online dating but I think they offer two opposite sides of dating. I feel like speed dating deals with seeing the person f2f: hearing their voice, seeing their gestures, eye contact, and smell. Speed dating deals with the physical aspect of dating. I don't see anyone getting to know anyone from speed dating. All you can tell them is a short blur about who you are but what is really speaking is your physical self.
On the other hand, online dating deals with very little of the physical self only photos and potentially webcamming. This kind of dating lets the other individual know more about who you are as a person, you can have meaningful conversation like Alexis said she did. Some may say this is better and not superficial, but to each their own. I don't feel either is more effective over the other. But we do live in a world that focuses on the physical world, which could be why speed dating makes more sense to us. Do you agree?
Luis,I agree with you when you stated that our world focuses on the physical. I think this is why we stigmatize speed dating less. Online dating is a way for people that may not want to be judged on their physical appearance. I don't think one is more effective, it depends on the person.
ReplyDeleteI would agree with both of the previous comments. Neither speed dating nor online dating allow both participants to truly develop a relationship. You cant have the physical aspect but not know anything about the person and at the same time you cant truly know the person but never physically be close to them.
ReplyDeleteBecca, I'm glad you brought up speed dating. While I certainly don't think it's possible for someone to know in five minutes whether they are in LOVE with the person sitting accross from them, I definately think five minutes is enough to make an initial "yes," "no," or "maybe" judgement.
ReplyDeleteI mean, isn't that what we all do in real life? We're at a party, and we spot a guy/or girl, and within seconds we make a judgement about them, and we decide "yes," "no" or "maybe." If it's a "yes," or a "maybe," perhaps we go over and talk to them and then make further judgements from there.
We cannot help but to make initial judgements about people. It's part of how we categorize and make sense of the world as humans. It's unconscious, most of the time, but with dating, I think you know within the first five minutes of speaking to someone if they have either a hint of potential to be your love, or no potential at all. Do you agree?
I think I do agree, Michelle...for the most part. I do think that you can tell if there will be chemistry with a person within the first few minutes of interaction, but what about the cases you hear about when best friends fall in love? they know each other for years and years and then after a while, they realize there is chemistry. I guess the issue could go both ways.
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